X The New Year’s Resolution That Will Change Your Life

Tis the time of year when we come down from the “Holiday High” and start reflecting on how we want this fresh, clean-slate-of-a-year to be happier, healthier, more successful, more fun, with less stress, less cellulite, more “me time” and an additional dose of leafy greens. Lots of lofty goals and high hopes start sparking inside and we feel empowered to improve!

Yes, this is how it inevitably begins. Then, typically, not too much time passes before we (feeling a bit deflated) realize that not much magically changed when Ryan Seacrest counted down to midnight on New Year’s Eve and we all giddily toasted and celebrated the beginning of a new chapter.

We still have the same job, the same family, the same challenges and the same metabolism. This is not to say we should not capitalize on the inspiration for positive change that accompanies each new year – it’s absolutely an opportunity to reflect and take action. However, as we are often reaching for the stars when it comes to our resolutions, we can easily overlook what truly matters most and what ultimately dictates our health and happiness.

Our relationships.

Yes, that’s a big statement, but my life’s work has been dedicated to this fact and it has now been proven by an unprecedented 75 year-long study by Harvard University.

Robert Waldinger, the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, reveals with conviction that out of all of the incredible findings thus far, “Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.” Not only do people who have close and meaningful relationships live longer, but they have better physical, mental and emotional health. We intuitively know that relationships are important and need to be nurtured, but we don’t often focus on them – they are messy, they are challenging, there is no quick fix and they are lifelong. However, we now have the statistical knowledge and our own power to design a happier and healthier future for ourselves in the most profound sense.

I ask that you add this resolution to your list (or make this your only resolution if you’re one of many who have sworn off resolutions): Take time to pay attention to the people you care about — your family, your friends, your community. Connect with someone you love, re-connect with someone you’ve lost touch with or make an effort to meet new people who will add meaning and value to your life. Tune-into and honor your differences and contributions and practice patience and forgiveness with yourself and others. Treat the people you care about how THEY wish to be treated and commit to Living in Platinum to create and sustain more meaningful connections. The return on your investment has now been proven to be invaluable.

Happy New Year to you and yours,


Here’s the link to the quick and powerful TED Talk by Robert Waldinger on the findings. Worth every second.